When it comes to your maid of honor speech, here’s the most important tip I can give you.

1/ Do not leave it until the last minute to decide what to say. My first matron of honor speech was a … well it wasn’t brilliant!  The second was a hundred times better (because I had a plan).

You need to get it right well beforehand and then practice, practice, practice! You do not want to clam up (let’s face it, it’s an emotional day so the last thing you want to do is “choke” when your moment arrives).

Remember… messing up your best friend or sister’s wedding  is going to be far worse than messing up your own. Could you ever look them in the face again?

2/ Be aware of how your matron of honor toasts fits in with the rest of the speeches. You will be following the best man (who may well have just brought the house down). if he has then how are you going to follow that.

The obvious temptation is to try and “outwit” them. You have to resist this, particularly if you are your sisters matron of honor. You will know so much embarassing stuff that you could easily overstep the mark.

3/ Don’t make your maid of honor speech too long. There are umpteen speeches to get through. You don’t want to bore them to death!